Saturday, August 20, 2011

It's almost October 1st (Grandmother's Birthday)

My sweet cousin sent me a number of old photographs of my grandmother and grandfather. She took the time to scan them and sent me nice jpegs. Looking through all the pictures I can see happy and not-so-happy expressions in her face and in his. I am better able to write the narrative now that I have a husband and child of my own. I can see the tensions and frustrations…the thinness from starvation and worry, the fatness later from having unmarked time with an empty nest and not much else to do. If I only knew then what I know now, my relationship to my grandmother would have been very different. Not that I was bad to her in any way, but I understand so much more now about how difficult life is. How happiness and family don’t solve all the problems, how complicated it is to raise a kid (or 4 kids in her case) and have a marriage—always bending, always giving in, giving up—trying so hard often in vain.

In her later years, the years that I knew her best, she was mostly relaxed (or more relaxed) and would treat herself often to shopping trips and sundaes, Mexican lunch with the girls. She would sit and put her feet up. I am so glad she did. I know how long the days are raising kids left alone in a house with a baby—chasing, chasing, rescuing, preventing. We all deserve to put our feet up; to eat sundaes; to rest, to sing, to laugh, to try new things, to have joy!

I miss my grandmother as much in my memory as in real life. I wish her here sometimes to talk to me again, to tell me secrets—I wish I could rub her shoulders and feet and pepper her cheeks with kisses. She would get such elation from my daughter—so funny and full of life.

Thank you cousin for the pictures.

Tuesday, August 9, 2011


Here I am again surprised that I am like everybody else…with such obvious and transparent human emotions. Nothing to see here. I am conflicted about going back to work. Very excited to have a wonderful job. But, oh, Baby S, my love, my dear, my soul (see, look up going back to work on the Internet, you will find thousands of mommies just like me.) How bittersweet. Will she ever know that I love her so much and that I have not abandoned her?

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

What Did You Have for Dinner Last Night?

I had a toasted bagelthin with unsalted butter and a small hunk of hot pepper cheese, a glass and a half of white wine, and Jeni's coriander raspberry and dark milk chocolate ice cream. Who needs nutrients?

Monday, August 1, 2011

A New List of Things to Do

1. Take a class at every yoga studio inside of 270.
2.  Make an apple and/or a peach cake.
3.  Take a bath each week—not a shower, those are daily—but a real, good, soak-your-butt, mineral salt, steamy, relaxing, with a glass of wine, bath.
4.  Create a new recipe using pesto.
5.  Spend one whole day without complaining or worrying.


Is necessity truly the mother of invention? Or is it privilege? Or boredom? Or intelligence? All I know is that it is not exhaustion that inspires creativity.